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Devi Abraham's avatar

I got an email from you after so many years. True love waits.

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Alexa, play Rebecca St. James.

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Steph's avatar

*winning comment right here!

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Christina J's avatar

Jamie B Golden! So happy to see your Substack finally in action! Please talk about skincare for us GenXers dealing with periomenopause. I need recommendations of what works for mature skin and at different price points please. Those TikTok / Instagram influencers with their baby skin and advice are of no use to me.

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

I am here to do just that! I promise to share everything I've learned and point to all the other smart folks who are talking about these things!

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Jessica Mendez Rowe's avatar

But also, is there anything I should be doing in my 30s that will help me when I do reach perimenopause?? Vitamins? Supplements? Just lots of water? Who knows

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Christina nailed it below! I think if you can read a few great books on Menopause, then you'll know better what to expect when things get weird.

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Christina J's avatar

Jessica - I wish I knew about this book early on in perimenopause, but “Hot and Bothered: What No One Tells You About Menopause and How to Feel Like Yourself Again” by Jancee Dunn has really helped me understand what the heck was happening with me. Jamie recommended the book when she was on Anne Bogel’s podcast.

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Courtney Rowland's avatar

This is my green light of the week. 🎉🎉🎉🎉

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

LETSSSS GOOOOO....

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Annette Silveira's avatar

As an old who’s been in menopause for eons, I am so glad to see so much discussion about it everywhere. Your doctor will most likely be zero help. Crowdsource that ish.

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

WHY WAS MY GYNO USELESS? I got a new one who is excellent but that fired one was a situation...

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Meredith's avatar

Peri-girlies - if your GYN was useless (mine was), go to Menopause.org (it’s a medical professional association. Totally legit) There is a link that says “find a physician”. It gives you a list of actual medical doctors in your areas who have an additional training in menopause. I love my new doc. I want to erect a statue in her honor in the town square. She saved me.

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Amy Gallardo's avatar

I just went last week, main topic was perimenopause and looow energy and she basically said a version of live with it, this is your life now. So frustrating

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Meredith's avatar

See my comment below. Find a new doc. When my new one and improved doc said “your quality of life matters” I nearly wept with relief.

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Donna Hawkins's avatar

Yay! So glad you’re doing this! SHOW US DEM EMPTIES B WORD

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

You are not ready for the photo I took today of every empty that is waiting...

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S.Rod's avatar

Excited about varying energy level skincare routines. Am also hoping for lists/reviews of your favorite smut authors, which penthouse life choices are worth it and what we still go to Wal-Mart for, how to spot the signs of perimenopause (bc y’all got me WORRIED), and whatever other general delights you care to throw our way.

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Adding to my whiteboard...

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Erin R's avatar

Obsessed with all of this. The candy guide to skincare amounts was 💯💯💯

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Using nuts did not bring me joy. So I found the thing that did.

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Amy's avatar

Title of your sex tape.

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Erin R's avatar

Yassss

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Erin R's avatar

There’s a joke there, but I’ll refrain 😏

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Kellie Jeffrey's avatar

This is like the adult version of when the new Harry Potter was released. ⚡️🙌🏻

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Indiana Gigi's avatar

So excited to get this! More JBG in my life? Yes, please!!!

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

I will try to ration me out in a reasonable manner.

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Ashley's avatar

Love this post! Can you chat about the hormone/perimenopause sitch? Specifically how to think about the risks of blood clots with HRT for women in bigger bodies? Cuz perimenopause research is confusing and I’m scared of hormones but scared of myself without them. Like whoa. 🙏

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Yes - I spent so much time talking to experts about this and thankfully got the answer with the medical journals to back it up (short answer: patch is fine, pill is a no-go).

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Shelby Livingston's avatar

WHAT A GIFT THIS WAS TO POP UP IN MY EMAIL, JBG. I am here for any and all skincare/makeup recs and also any conversations about being childfree. I am married but the thought of coordinating after school pick up with soccer practice and tantrums makes me want to get a bikini wax but instead of wax it’s a woman with tweezers going to down on my vulva.

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Listen. I'm surge Helga would be gentle with you.

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Shelby Livingston's avatar

Helga would be gentler than me dealing with children, that’s for sure.

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Elle Wilkerson's avatar

This email was the highlight of my summer

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Beth B's avatar

Excellent news! Into all 5 topics so you can’t lose with me. Also, my husband (who is a former teacher) used to have a class called “Adult Spanish club”, whoopsie doodle. Hahaha. We had him change it to Spanish Lessons for Adults, but not before he got more than a few side eyes. 👀

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

EXACTLY. Never not funny.

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Kandi's avatar

Thank God. I literally googled just this past week to see if you had updated your skincare recs. We need you and you have answered the call.

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Beth Vos's avatar

What an absolute delight to appear in my inbox to banish the Sunday scaries! If you're willing, I would love some suggestions of your fav Dramione fan fics since I lost two full days in January to "Draco Malfoy and the mortifying ordeal of being in love" and have zero regrets. So glad you're on this corner of the internet!

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

Yes! This is a great topic. Smut for the perimenopausal.

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Amelia Barnes's avatar

Have you read Erotic Stories for Punjabi Widows? Because that’s basically the point of that book. 😂

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Kate Koenig's avatar

Dreams really do come true!!

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Jamie B. Golden's avatar

TWIRLING IN MY TULLE SKIRT FOR YOU KATE

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Kate Koenig's avatar

The twirling is mutual, Jamie!

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